Monday, July 30, 2007
Lawyers, a Jew, Presbyterians, and a Social Worker
This past month the peacebuilding team was able to participate in six days of training on mediation skills. The training was sponsored by Family Mediation and Conciliation, a Nairobi based NGO, and the trainer was Michael Williams, a mediator for over 20 years from Ireland. Not only was it a good opportunity for the three of us to have common training together, but we met new people, and learned more about Kenya. And as mediation skills can be applied in many life situations, the training also deepened our well of resources for living in community and working with others.
But what made this experience most worth while was the community we created among the participants. Thirteen of us included the sponsors, trainer, and attendees. There were five lawyers – four Kenyans and one Irishman, a law student, also Kenyan, a Jewish arbitrator who has made his home in Kenya for 35 years, a Samburan tribesman who works with Christian Children’s Foundation, two Kenyan women from the Presbyterian Church of East Africa, and us, the “Catholic nuns.”
Creating our own scenarios for mediation practice led to familiar cases of land disputes, and tensions between cultural traditions and modern necessities. Pershaps it was the unique nature of our group that brought us to mediate a conversation between Sarah, wife of Abraham, and Ishmael, eldest born son of Abraham. Mediation draws on the openness of participants which is why our Jewish friend readily stepped up to role play the part of Ishmael. Several hours of listening and telling and bringing Isaac into the process ended in an empassioned plea from Sarah for Ishmael to come live among the descendants of Abraham, in co-existence and tolerance.
Kenya has not yet incorporated mediation as a legal option for settling disputes, but the process is underway. As a member of the committee to make it happen, Joy Mbaabu, Director of FAMEC, has committed her organization to training mediators for the future. When the judicial system is ready for mediators, she wants them to be available. So far, just over 30 people have participated in the training.
For the peacebuilding team, we have met new friends that will broaden our experience of Kenya, deepen our understanding of other religions, and expand our web of relationships.
Monday, April 09, 2007
Time for Peace
Giang
The edge of Kenya
The women who attended this workshop are leaders in their communities. They want changes that would make life less harsh for themselves and their communities. This is a hard task because still women in these communities have to vote according to what their husbands dictate. They shared stories about corruption and tribalism that lead to elections of people who quickly abandon their constituents by relocating to nice homes in Nairobi. An encouraging note in the meeting was that some women in this group will run in the local elections. I hope that they will achieve their goals. Regardless of winning or losing in this year’s election, these women are opening the door a bit wider to allow other women to follow. They have my admiration.
Giang
Wednesday, March 07, 2007
AWARENESS OF OUR DIFFERENCES: 7th of March 2007
While walking in
This week I participated in a three day workshop, which enhanced and awakened my understanding of the complexity of human nature, a thing to celebrate. The workshop reminded me of the packages of life history we carry around with us. Some of them we are aware of and most of them are in our unconsciousness. For me, this awareness makes it even more complex because I realize I still have a lot to learn about myself before I can even make an attempt to try to learn about another person. As I keep reflecting on this process, I wish that every person can have time and resources to learn about his/herself. This will make the interaction with one another smoother.
As God’s creatures we didn’t choose to be who we are. We found ourselves to be in the culture we were born and raised and this spoke a lot to me. We are all socialized in different ways according to the society we were born and raised. Now, in this era of globalization, we are even more confused because from the beginning in whatever society we were socialized we were not prepared to face the other. The meaning making system of each society is different. We are now a global community and together we are expecting to make meaning out of it without compromising ourselves.
The big blanket of each one’s meaning making system is our cultures. In this cultural package all of us carry values, assumptions, beliefs and myths. Sometimes it is difficult to identify some of the values which might be driving us to act in a certain way. When I am in my cultural context this is not a problem at all, because of the assumptions that people know what I mean. But when I am out of my own cultural context I constantly need to be aware of every word and every action. I might even need to define them because they might have different meaning to some one else who is not from my context (Chagga tribe in
For all of us who are looking for a culture of peace, it is very important we constantly try to learn more about ourselves and the packages we have inherited in our life history. We need not forget this proverb “you can not give what you don’t have”. This is crucial for each of us to make peace with ourselves first before we make an attempt of reaching out there. We can do this by re-visiting our values, concepts we use and the assumptions. Take full ownership of all the privileges we have in life and then make choices. We also need to be aware of our intent and impact on the rest of the world. If we are not aware of the privileges we have we will be part of the problem, because it is easier to abuse something which you are not aware of.
Thursday, February 22, 2007
Collaborative Power
As a culturally diverse team, one exercise we engage in regularly is sharing our observations about how others encounter the three of us. Whether we have an informal meeting with a colleague, or meeting with potential collaborators for the first time, not long after, the three of us will share with each other how we observed the interaction. To whom did the other person speak directly, or did she engage us all equally? Who among the three of us did most of the talking, if any? How did the other person respond to each of us individually? What might we have done differently to present ourselves as a collaborative team? Often the people we meet or work with notice and talk with me, the European American, more than Sia or Giang. Because of our experiences and our recognition that racial preferences operate in society, we try to work in such a way to reveal to others our collaborative effort.
By then, we had spent about three hours with them, so I posed the question to them, “Who among the three of us (the three facilitators) has power and why?” The first person said I did, because I appeared to be older. Another added that because I was older, I probably had seniority in religious life also. One mentioned that Sia had power because we are on her home continent. Giang was identified as having power because she helped set the ground rules. Again I was identified as having power because when we arrived the other two were busy setting things up and arranging the room but I was not. And someone had observed that I told Giang to move to a different chair at the beginning, which she did. Another said that I had power because the other two presented first and I came afterward to tie it all together. One said I had power because of my physical size.
I noted these observations on the board one by one and then addressed the reality of each assumption. Age, yes I am the oldest, and particularly in most African cultures and many others, age is honorific, and carries power. Seniority in religious life is share by Giang and me as we enter in the same group. Geographical setting gives Sia power through experience and knowledge that Giang and I do not have. Giang’s facilitation of setting ground rules is perceived as an integral part of the facilitation, so some participants see that as a position of power. My physical size does give an appearance of power initially, yet my actual strength and health would actually be weaker than Sia and Giang both.
The organization of work that we had arranged in an effort to present collaboration was not perceived that way. We had decided Sia would begin and Giang would follow giving them visibility first, then I would be third. Participants perceived almost the opposite of our intentions. Had I introduced the day and our objectives, would I not have been perceived to be “in charge”? Had Sia been the third presenter and “tied it all together” would they have perceived her to have power in the group? Had Giang facilitated a different part of the day, how would they have perceived her in the group? Did my telling Giang to change seats dictate the dynamics?
These are valuable observations for the participants, and also for us in our work as we continue. We did not push for the participants to identify race as the indicator of power in our group, but was that operating in their designation of my power? In whatever way we organize our facilitations and presentations, will we be able to reveal our collaborative effort as a team? That is our hope, our intention, and we will continue to try, and to learn each time, and share our learnings as we go.
Monday, February 12, 2007
World Social Forum-January 2007
World Social Forum (WSF) 2007
In 2006, we came to
There were many workshops and seminars presenting different topics that attracted us. On one occasion all three of us attended a presentation given by the women Nobel Peace Prize winners who started a project called Nobel Women’s Initiative. They use it as a platform for action on behalf of sustainable peace for our world. Jody Williams, Wangari Mathai, and Sharin Ebadi spoke out against political, economic, social and environmental violence. They highlighted issues of injustices around the world. For instance , we learned that
One of the issues that was highlighted with daily presentations concerned international migration. People from Europe, Asia, Latin America and
Despite the many problems, migration will continue to increase because developing countries like
Besides attending different events, we also gave a presentation at the WSF on strategic coalition building: how civil society could provide a more comprehensive and effective service to society without unnecessary duplication or cancellation of efforts. We had a gathering of about 50 people at the WSF who were interested in exploring how coalition building works to for a better society. We saw this as the beginning of our efforts to build strong webs of relationships that will enable societies to sustain and endure turbulences – which make for sustainable peace in societies.
Prior to this presentation, we had convened a meeting with six networks from different sectors working in
Living Interculturally
Immediately following the WSF, the team gave a workshop on intercultural living skills to a group of men belonging to an international religious order. The participants came from 4 different cultures and are all called to live out their religious commitments in an intercultural setting. It was a very good weekend for us and for the participants. We were reminded throughout the workshop of the need for our world to learn how to live together, not just exist along side each other. In light of the issues of discrimination and prejudices that face more and more people in today’s world due to migration and ethnic violence, we feel affirmed in our desire to live in an intentionally multicultural community and to bring our personal experiences in this context to the work that we do as a witness to the possibility and vitality of intercultural living.
Wednesday, January 03, 2007
Objectives
The following workshops are available:
- Nonviolent Communication
- Conflict Transformation
- Sustaining Dialogue
- Trauma Healing
- Peace Education
- Peace Strategies
Facilitation is available for:
- Needs Assessment
- Conflict Sensitive Program Design, Implementation, Assessment and Evaluation
- Dialogue
- Intercultural living
While being from diverse cultures and ethnic backgrounds, our team believes in the African Proverb that says, "Peace is costly but it is worth the expense."